Hold Money Well, But No Let Am Hold You

Balancing Sapa, Sense, and Soft Life Without Letting Money Run You street

In this life, I am a very simple woman. My wants are few, my principles are clear. And when it comes to money; that thing we all chase and yet pretend we don’t care about, I have only two major problems. Two types of people, really. And every time I encounter them, it leaves me shaking my head.

First off: the people who idolize money. Oh Lord. These people are something else.

They treat money like it’s some golden calf that must be worshiped and praised day and night. It’s as if once you have money, every other thing in life just magically falls into place. No need for character, no need for patience, no need for any sense of purpose, just money, money, money. And I can’t stand it.

Because first of all, let’s be honest, money is almost like a spirit. It comes and goes.

Today it’s here, tomorrow you’re broke, the next day it’s raining money again. That’s just how money moves. It’s slippery, it’s unpredictable, and sometimes it plays tricks on you. So why would anyone sit there and idolize something so unstable, something so temporary?

You see people ruin friendships, sell their souls, destroy entire families, all because of money. They start measuring their worth, their relationships, even their own value, by how much money they have at any given moment. And to me, that’s a tragedy. A big one. Because when you let money become your god, it will disappoint you in ways you didn’t even think were possible.

Money is a terrible master but a fantastic servant. It’s meant to be a tool, not the architect of your whole life.

Now, before you think I’m about to get all philosophical and “money doesn’t matter” on you, wait first.

Because the second group of people I have a problem with are the exact opposite.

These ones? They act like money is the devil itself.

They pretend like they don’t need it. They form humility where it’s not needed.

They would rather suffer in silence than use the money that could make their lives easier.

And to me, that’s not humility. That’s just pure stubbornness wrapped in suffering.

I mean, imagine, you have a problem, and money would solve it immediately. Quick. Simple. But you hold back. You don’t want to spend.

You’d rather hand-wash 20 shirts every weekend than buy a washing machine because “a washing machine will make me lazy.”

Sorry oh, but when did convenience become a sin? Why must you suffer when you have an option to ease your life?

These people, sometimes, even have money sitting in their accounts, growing mold, but they’d rather continue to suffer because they think spending money on comfort or ease is somehow a betrayal of good character.

It’s a mindset that I will never understand. Ever.

Money is meant to be used. It’s a tool. It’s there to solve problems, to open doors, to create better living conditions. You’re not meant to worship it, but you’re also not meant to fear it.

Balance. That’s all I’m asking for. Balance.

I think sometimes we inherit funny ideas about money. Maybe from childhood, or society, or even religion.

Somewhere along the line, we start thinking that being broke is somehow noble, that struggling unnecessarily is a sign of strength.

And then others grow up thinking that being rich automatically makes you wise or important.

Both mindsets are dangerous. Both are false.

Here’s how I see it. Money should be a quiet, steady force in your life.

You should respect it, but you should never love it. You should use it, but you should never let it use you.

You should enjoy it, but never let it define your happiness.

If you’re working hard and you’re blessed enough to make good money, use it well. Buy things that make your life easier. Invest in experiences that make your life richer. Give to people who need it.

And if you lose money, don’t let it destroy you. Understand that it’s just one part of life, not the entire thing.

I know sometimes it’s hard. Especially when life gets tough and everything seems to be about bills and survival.

It’s easy to slip into either extreme, to either worship money out of desperation, or to resent money and act like you don’t need it.

But the truth is, both are traps. And both will leave you unfulfilled.

At the end of the day, I think a healthy relationship with money is one of the best things a person can develop.

And it starts by telling yourself the truth:

• Money is necessary.

• Money is powerful.

• Money is dangerous if you let it control you.

• But money is also harmless if you know how to control it.

Use it. Spend it wisely. Enjoy it without guilt. Save it with purpose. Give it without fear. But never, ever let it tell you who you are.

That’s how I try to live my life. And that’s why I’ll keep having a problem with those two types of people.

The ones who bow to money like it’s their master, and the ones who pretend they are too holy or too strong to need it.

Me? I choose balance. I choose freedom.

I choose to let money serve me, not the other way around. The moment something comes up and money is involved, I try to do the reasonable thing; not hoard but not throw money around.

And honestly, I hope you will too.

Until next time,

Love, light, and sparkles, because you are magical.